We’ve talked before about the fact that it doesn’t necessarily come easily to us to focus attention on ourselves and what we want from our life.
It feels self-indulgent. We feel as though we’re being ungrateful for the life we already have.
We know we’re already very lucky, yet we can’t seem to shake the feeling that we want something more for ourselves, something more for our family AND something more for the world around us.
Does that sound familiar?
I want doesn’t get.
Did anyone ever say that to you when you were little?
In the context of teaching children manners – to say ‘I’d like to,’ instead of ‘I want,’ – it’s perfectly valid and well-intentioned.
But phrases like this – I want doesn’t get – settle into our brains and they stick, the surrounding context floating away with time.
Me: I was sure I’d do more than this…
My brain: Really? Why? What’s so special about you, hmm?
Me: It’s not like that. I just mean, I pictured things turning out differently.
My brain: <snorts> You and the rest of the world, pet. Stop being silly. You already have a home, a family, a job. What more do you want?
Me: <mortified> I know, I know, and I’m so grateful, believe me, but…
My brain: Oh, there’s always a ‘but’, isn’t there? You self-indulgent, greedy…
OK, I think it’s time to stop that conversation there. 😉
But let me just say this,