I want doesn’t get.
Did anyone ever say that to you when you were little?
In the context of teaching children manners – to say ‘I’d like to,’ instead of ‘I want,’ – it’s perfectly valid and well-intentioned.
But phrases like this – I want doesn’t get – settle into our brains and they stick, the surrounding context floating away with time.
Me: I was sure I’d do more than this…
My brain: Really? Why? What’s so special about you, hmm?
Me: It’s not like that. I just mean, I pictured things turning out differently.
My brain: <snorts> You and the rest of the world, pet. Stop being silly. You already have a home, a family, a job. What more do you want?
Me: <mortified> I know, I know, and I’m so grateful, believe me, but…
My brain: Oh, there’s always a ‘but’, isn’t there? You self-indulgent, greedy…
OK, I think it’s time to stop that conversation there. 😉
But let me just say this,